Agreeing to What Is

In life, we often encounter situations that are painful, uncomfortable, or downright devastating. It may seem absurd to contemplate the solutions these moments might hold, but it is precisely during these challenging times that we face a choice. We can either succumb to despair, resisting the unfolding events, or we can explore what this "unpleasantness" might reveal to us, introducing a fresh perspective that directly influences our emotions and coping mechanisms. By posing alternative questions and reshaping our inquiries, we open the door to transformative inner dialogues, paving the way for new and more constructive insights to emerge.

When we embrace the concept of "agreeing to what is," we release the illusion of possessing ultimate authority over our idealized versions of life, choices, paths, and realities. Instead, we seamlessly integrate ourselves into the symphony of existence, becoming a harmonious force that contributes our essence without mistakenly assuming absolute control over every aspect of our journey. The false belief in our ability to commandeer most aspects of life often breeds frustration and resistance, consuming much of our precious time. This misguided sense of control can hinder us from aligning our idealized life with our actual experiences. Consequently, we may find ourselves frequently complaining about family members, bosses, clients, or politicians, depleting our energy and leaving us ill-equipped to navigate the inevitable challenges that life throws our way. A more valuable question to contemplate is, "How do I choose to respond to all this?” 

We possess a remarkable toolkit brimming with "feel-good" elements, complemented by abundant resources such as exercise routines, moments of solitude, and meditation apps conveniently stored on our phones. The pivotal task lies in effectively employing these tools to respond to life's events in a manner that mitigates intense emotional reactions, preventing chaos and preserving our well-being. Rather than succumbing to high-octave emotional responses, we can shift our perspective by posing simple yet transformative questions: How might the current situation offer a solution to something? Can I approach someone with the sole intent to understand? Is it conceivable that I temporarily suspend my beliefs and be fully present with another's experience in this moment?

These questions, seemingly straightforward, usher us onto a divergent path of experience, demanding practice. While we have become adept at finding our comfort zones and adhering to them, we also tend to get irked when others deviate from our views. Operating with a GPS focused on pinpointing grievances along our journey, we inadvertently embark on self-imposed missions that accumulate into layers of dense debris. This accumulation renders life overwhelming, lacking inspiration, and frequently prompting self-dialogues in which we feel trapped in a recurring loop, questioning, "Why is this happening again? Why me?" This mindset confines us to a diminutive world, leaving little room for expansion.

In challenging moments, approach them with a receptive mindset and an open heart. By engaging with these situations with curiosity and respect, we not only acknowledge their presence but also cultivate a spacious mental environment. Often, space emerges as the most potent remedy in such moments.

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